Your thoughts have an important influence on your attitudes and behaviour.
How we think affects how we perceive people, things and situations as well as what and how we choose to take certain actions. We should remember that we can control the thoughts in our mind and make conscious decisions to manage our emotions by checking our thought patterns.
Here are some inaccurate thought patterns that we could correct by making the effort to think differently.
- blaming others for how we feel.
For example, "I am really irritated by what Jesslyn has just said!"
Correct this thinking pattern by rephrasing - "I am upset by Jesslyn's comments but blaming her will not help. I should reflect on what she had said and see if there are some truths in it. I can then take charge of the situation."
- assuming we know the other person's thoughts.
For example, "I am so disturbed that Sian Heng ignored me. He must be angry with me."
Correct this thinking pattern by rephrasing - "I feel disturbed that Sian Heng ignored me and I can't read his mind. I may want to clarify with him why he did that."
- Making sweeping judgements about someone based on one or two incidents.
For example, "I feel so frustrated that he is always holding back information from me!"
Correct this thinking pattern by rephrasing - "I may feel frustrated that I am not updated on the latest information, but I should try to cool down and clarify his actions with him."
Contributed By: Health Promotion Board (HPB)