Forming New Friendships

Monday, June 08, 2015

Making new friends can be tough. These tips might just make it easier.

“OMG, I have more than 700 Facebook friends, I'm so popular!”

How many times have you heard that?

You’ve likely felt like answering, “Actually it just means you know over 700 people, you’re not really friends with them!”

Of course, you’d never really say that. But deep down you probably know what true friendships are all about.

This is especially true when you’re starting out at a new school or making a big shift in your life.

Being the new guy or girl isn’t always easy. In fact, it’s uncomfortable walking into a room full of people who already know each other, and who just observe you.

Lucky for you, those first awkward moments are quickly forgotten, and friendships are quite easy to build wherever you go.

Being thrown into new and different environments – school, work, or the place you live – is just part of life and these changes don’t have to be a big deal. Actually, they can be really enjoyable.

Who knows, you might even find a new bestie who totally gets you; someone you would love to share your secrets with!

But where to start?

1. Say “hi” and show you’re interested.

You'd be surprised at how easy it is to get people talking by simply breaking the ice with a “hi”.

But you can’t stop there; you have to keep the conversation going after that!

Tell a little about yourself, like where you’re from and why you’re there. Keep it short and sweet, and you’ll see how people respond with their own story.

Most importantly, remember to listen to what they say: Remember their names, what they do ... and they may just say something interesting for you to take the conversation further!

2. Look out for people with a common interest.

If you feel that it’s challenging to talk to someone completely new, join a club you like in your school. It’s the easiest way to meet people who enjoy the same things you do. And you’ll never be at a loss for those first conversations, because the topic is right there!

Later, make plans to meet up over the weekend, to bond over your common interest.

3. Are you the funny one?

There's always a funny guy in every group; why not you?

Everyone loves an easy-going person who can crack a joke effortlessly. That’s not to say that you should cross this option out just because you’re not a clown.

Tell a funny story you've heard, share a hilarious website, or just laugh at something silly you or someone you know has done.

In general, a person who’s not easily offended and can join in the fun always puts the group at ease.

And if this is still a little tough to pull off, just smile.

Your expressions reflect how you think and feel, and smiling will earn you a few brownie points, if not a bucketful!

4. Throw a party!

Who doesn’t love a party? Throwing one is the best way to get people together!

Whether it’s a birthday or any other event, invite the new people you’ve met and have a get-together at your place.

Actually, you don’t even need an occasion or reason to have fun. Just throw a party with ice-breaking activities for everyone to chill, laugh, and have fun. Nothing like some good food and creative games to do the trick.

Don’t feel the need to worry whether your party is cool, because the people who truly want to be your friends will show up no matter what.

And with everyone around, it’ll be easier to approach and chat with people. Remember, the person you’re approaching is just as nervous as you are, so relax and be yourself!

As you can see, there are many simple ways to meet new people and hopefully turn them into friends. Don’t just try; practice these at every opportunity you get!

Contributed By: Health Promotion Board (HPB)
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